Commandment Series: The First

For the next ten weeks, I'll be focusing on each of the ten commandments. These laws may exist in the Old Testament, but Jesus brings them forward, saying, ""Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them." Matthew 5:17 In fact, Jesus makes a point of elucidating each commandment so that we can all fully understand the meaning behind it.

This week is about the First Commandment.

“I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me." Exodus 20:2-3

Your first thought may be to consider this an ancient problem. I mean, how hard is it to avoid pagan gods? In some parts of the world, it's harder than others, but the fact is, you don't need a golden idol in order to place other gods before Yahweh.

In both B.C. and A.D. times, there've been plenty of gods to worship. Many are gods of the water, trees, farming, war, fertility, destruction, creation, fishermen, feasts, etc. etc. If you can think of, well anything, there was or is a god for it. Crazy thing is, nowadays, we don't usually call them gods in the Western world. So, it can be quite shocking when you realize you've been placing a "god" before your real Father.

Take for instance my addiction to my smartphone. There's no doubt to me it's an addiction, and I know I'm not alone in this. Some of you are glued to your T.V., your games, your hobbies, your career, your money, or even your pride. Oh, but it's not harming anyone, least of all angering God, right? That's a good question.

"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever." 1 John 2:15-17

Anytime you see your "worldly worship" come before your prayer time with God or serving God in anyway, the First Commandment comes into play. If your phone interferes with family time, if your T.V. shows are glorifying evil, if your hobbies and career keep you in a cycle of greed, if you don't trust God with your money situation or refuse to spend any to help others, or if you are ever worried about what others think or say about you, you are placing other "gods" before Yahweh. We all have at some point.

"Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry." Colossians 3:5

Ya know, if you didn't believe me before. It's right there in writing.

How about this?

"No one can serve two masters: Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." Matthew 6:24

If you serve another "god," you're not loving God completely. You can't follow God if you're walking in the opposite direction.

Another one of my favorite verses is this, so I'm posting the whole thing.

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air: They do not sow or reap or gather into barns—and yet your Heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his lifespan?

And why do you worry about clothes? Consider how the lilies of the field grow: They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his glory was adorned like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?

Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans pursue all these things, and your Heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:25-34

Worry is another problem for me. When we worry, we're acting as if the world is more powerful than God. We worship at the altar of anxiety and sacrifice it our wasted time. We are placing worry and the problems of this world above God. Yet, He is clear on what we can do instead. We should "seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness." In other words, place God first, love Him, trust Him. He's stronger than all feelings, problems, and "gods." He shall provide.

When changing a habit or stuck mindset, we shouldn't just focus on the negative, we must focus on the positive. So, we know what NOT to do in order to "have no other gods before" Yahweh, so what SHOULD we do?

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the greatest and first commandment." Matthew 22:36-38

My all-time favorite verse. This is the first commandment, to love God with all your being and might. If you put Him first in your life, think of every action, thought, and word as if you are representing your God (because you are!). If you do everything out of your abundant love for Him, you'll be on the correct path.

You won't be perfect at this because none of us are. However, by choosing God as your master, you WILL be cutting the strings the world uses to make you its puppet, even if you stumble a little when you're free.

Next week is the Second Commandment, which is closely related to this one but not exactly the same.

אָמֵן Amen

Father's Day with God

Tomorrow is Father's Day, which depending on who you are and what your relationship is with your own father, may conjure up a lot of mixed feelings. Although I've personally been blessed with a loving relationship with my dad, not everyone has. There are people with rocky connections, others who have lost their dads, and still others who don't even know who that man might be. Where ever you may fall in this continuum, God has a message for you.

"The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, 'Abba, Father.'" Romans 8:15

The Greek word for "adoption to sonship" is a term referring to the full legal standing of an adopted male heir in Roman culture. That means you are utterly His child in every way. This isn't limited to males, just to be clear. It could just as well say "daughtership," but in the time the Bible was written, that wouldn't have given the child heirship to the father's legacy. This means everyone, male and female, inherits the Kingdom of God as His children. He loves you too much to give you any less.

"Now I say, as long as the heir is a child, he does not differ at all from a slave although he is owner of everything, but he is under guardians and managers until the date set by the father. So also we, while we were children, were held in bondage under the elemental things of the world. But when the fullness of the time came, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the Law, so that He might redeem those who were under the Law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. Because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into our hearts, crying, "Abba! Father!" Therefore you are no longer a slave, but a son; and if a son, then an heir through God." Galatians 4:1-7

God, the Father, sent His only begotten Son to die for us so we could claim Him as our dad, too. There are many instances of God being referred to as a father, such as when Jesus was alone and afraid the day before His crucifixion.

"Abba, Father,” he said, “everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.” Mark 14:36

One source states "Abba is a transliteration of the Aramaic used to address God in a relation of personal intimacy. It is a term expressing warm affection and filial confidence." Consider when Jesus spoke of asking for what you need from God:

"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? So if you who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!" Matthew 7:10

However, God is not a gender and can not be limited to being a father only. He is also referred to as a mother of His children.

"But Zion said, 'The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me.''Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.'" Isaiah 49:14-16

How about when Jesus speaks of all the times He's sent people to guide us, and we weren't listening?

“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing. " Luke 13:34

The image of a father traditionally holds him to be the strength and backbone of a family while the mother is typically shown to be the nurturing and comforting one. While us humans fail in many ways, even in parenting, God never fails, and He could be looked at for parenting advice. See how He corrects, guides, and comforts us? He uses few words and lots of love. My favorite verse comparing God to a parent is the parable of the Prodigal Son.

"Jesus continued: “There was a man who had two sons. The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them.

“Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.

“When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’ So he got up and went to his father.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.

“The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’

“But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate." Luke 15:11-24

Notice that the one son was allowed the freedom to mess up. When he returned, it wasn't really because he felt guilty about doing wrong (at least from what we're told). He was just tired of being alone, starving, and uncomfortable. He realized his father's house was amazing, and he'd taken that life for granted.

When he returned, he did what many of us do when dreading a conversation. He prepared his words carefully. However, his father didn't hear a word of what his son had prepared. He never thought twice about why his son had returned. He didn't care. He was just too overjoyed that he'd returned safely, and he ran to his son, embraced him with affection and instant forgiveness.

That father is God and that son is you, His child.

So, however Father's Day makes you feel this year and whatever relationship (or lack thereof) you may have with your earthly father, God is the truest father, and He is yours. He runs to you daily, embracing you, being your strength, your comfort, and all He wants in return is love. And if your earthly father is no longer in this world, remember God is His father too, and believe me, He's giving him affection and joy as we speak.

May you all have a good Father's Day, and don't forget to send a Happy Father's Day to your Father, God.



Sources other than Bible: biblegateway, biblestudytools

The World As Witness

Some explain it away as pagan stories that the Bible took in; others say there are common, pre-historic memories preserved in each culture. Whichever way you look at it, there are many stories recorded in the Bible which can also be found in other parts of the world, and they're too similar to be simply dismissed.

Eve and Pandora:

"The woman said to the serpent, “From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.’” The serpent said to the woman, “You surely will not die! “For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate." Genesis 3:2-6

Compare, if you will, to the story of Pandora in Greek mythology. As it is written in Hesiod's poem, "Theogony," she was the first female, formed from the Earth. She was given a jar (mistranslated as box), as a wedding gift, and told to never open it (by the jealous Zeus who had tricked her). Her curiosity got the better of her, and all manner of illness and evil was released upon the world, bringing the cycle of birth and death to humankind. When she was finally able to close it, only hope was left inside.

If you recall, after Adam and Eve ate from the Tree of Good and Evil, bringing death to mankind, God had a discussion with the rest of the Trinity.

"And the Lord God said, “The man has now become like one of us, knowing good and evil. He must not be allowed to reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life and eat, and live forever.” Genesis 3:22

And hope was held back until it was given through Jesus. There are some differences, of course, between the two stories. In one, God gives the command to not eat the fruit, and the serpent tricks Eve into eating it. In the other, it's really the serpent who tricks the woman into dying of curiosity with reverse psychology. Still, the two stories remain very similar.

Ancient Giants:

"When man began to multiply on the face of the land and daughters were born to them, the sons of God saw that the daughters of man were attractive. And they took as their wives any they chose. Then the Lord said, “My Spirit shall not abide in man forever, for he is flesh: his days shall be 120 years.” The Nephilim were on the earth in those days, and also afterward, when the sons of God came in to the daughters of man and they bore children to them. These were the mighty men who were of old, the men of renown." Genesis 6:1-21

The Nephilim are usually described as fallen angels or sons of God.

The idea of heaven and earth mixing and creating them is similar to the Greek mythology of gods and demi-gods. First, there are the Titans, which were physically giants and basically gods, though less so than the "primordial deities." They were the children of Gaia (Mother Earth) and Uranus (Father Sky). Then, we could also bring up the "Gigantes," which means giants in Greek. They were aggressive and strong beings, but not always physical giants. They were made when Uranus's blood fell upon Gaia, according to the poet Hesiod. They were very human-like when depicted in art. Apparently, the difference between the Titans and the Gigantes really lies in the fact that the Gigantes were earthborn.

In Hinduism, giants are called Daityas. They were the children of Diti (goddess of earth) and a sage, Kashyapa (the ancestor of humans). The Daityas were power-hungry and jealous of their half-brothers known as the Deva. The Deva were "heavenly, divine" beings. Generally, the Daityas were looked at as malevolent and the Deva as benevolent.

The differences are many, but the similarities are a little eerie.

Global Flood:

"Then the Lord said to Noah, “Come into the ark, you and all your household, because I have seen that you are righteous before Me in this generation. You shall take with you seven each of every clean animal, a male and his female; two each of animals that are unclean, a male and his female; also seven each of birds of the air, male and female, to keep the species alive on the face of all the earth. For after seven more days I will cause it to rain on the earth forty days and forty nights, and I will destroy from the face of the earth all living things that I have made.” And Noah did according to all that the Lord commanded him. Noah was six hundred years old when the floodwaters were on the earth." Genesis 7:1-6

Now, the story of the world-wide flood is in nearly every culture. Not surprising since the event was world-wide...

The Sumerian story, "Epic of Gilgamesh" dates back 5000 years, and describes Utnapishtim who builds a vast circular boat with tar and pitch, brings his family, seeds, and animals, and survives a flood released by the angry gods. He, like Noah, lets a bird out of the boat in order to find dry land after the waters recede.

In Native American folklore, the Ojibwe tribe has a legend of Waynaboozhoo and the Great flood. It speak of an evil world long ago where the creator decided to flood the earth. One man (Waynaboozhoo) made a raft for animals and himself. After waiting awhile for the waters to recede, he asked a loon to dive down to the "old world" beneath the waves for mud. He was unable to do so. So, the beaver tried, but was also unsuccessful. Next, the coot (a water bird) was able to bring back mud, and from it, the new world was formed. This story is almost exactly like the Ottawa legend, but in the Ottawa legend the main man is a prophet with a wolf-dog that the sea-god was jealous of, which the sea-god killed, causing the prophet to pierce the god with an arrow, releasing a flood. There's numerous Native American flood stories.

In India, Vedic lore states their god (Brahma) came in the form of a fish to warn the Indian king Manu of a massive flood that will destroy all of humanity. The book, Satapatha Brahmana, says he was a "holy man, who, by penances and prayers, had won the favour of the lord heaven." Manu had three sons before the flood, like Noah. However, in Manu's story, the flood was not due to an evil world but simply part of the natural order of things. He builds a ship and fills it with animals and seeds. After the flood recedes, he is led to a dry mountain by the fish and proceeds to repopulate the world.

In Aztec myth, it was during the era of the fourth sun when people grew wicked and stopped worshipping the gods. The god of rains decided to flood the world, but he liked a devout couple, Tata and Nena, and warned them of the upcoming destruction. He told them how to hollow out a large log, bring corn to eat, and they survived the flood.

There are innumerable flood myths from Egypt, China, Scandinavia, and many other countries, and they are varied and sometimes strange (like blood flooding the earth instead of water). Although, it would be no wonder if the water covering the Earth was red-tinged due to all the death.

I guess you can interpret these findings in any way you see fit. The way I see it, it's kind of strange to have so many unrelated, disconnected cultures describing the same event if that event never happened. It just reinforces the stories of the Bible and brings them to light from the differing perspectives across the world.

Sources other than the Bible:
http://time.com/44631/noah-christians-flood-aronofsky/
http://www.equip.org/article/creation-accounts-ancient-near-eastern-religions/
http://creationtoday.org/giant-speculations-the-bible-and-greek-mythology/
Each of these sources have various other linked sources which are innumerable and not listed here.

Nice & Polite: What Would Jesus NOT Do?

So, being a good Christian means being super nice to others and using your manners, right? Wrong. Here's another episode (er... post) on things the Bible doesn't say!

Jesus was not always a nice guy.

Does this statement make you feel uncomfortable? If you've grown up on WWJD bracelets, you might be surprised that what He would do is a lot less politically correct than you thought. He never gave us an example of him being polite. He was not always well-mannered. He was always kind and loving - but not always nice. "What's the difference?" I hear you ask.

"A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.” Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.” He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel." The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said. He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.” “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment." Matthew 15:21-28

Some like to avoid this verse because it speaks of a different Jesus than we're used to discussing, the one who welcomed children onto His lap and wept over friends' deaths. This Jesus essentially called a woman, pleading for help, a dog. Who is this man?!

Well, let's dive in. Do you remember that in the book of Matthew, there are two stories of Jesus and His disciples miraculously feeding an innumerable crowd? This verse is right in the middle. The first story of feeding describes 5000 people waiting to be fed where the disciples ask Jesus to send them away. Besides, there's not enough food to feed them all. Jesus simply states, "They do not need to go away. You give them something to eat." (Matthew 14:16) After everyone ate, there were only crumbs left, twelve basketfuls (twelve for the tribes of Israel).

Then, this woman states even dogs eat the crumbs that fall from the master's table (an allusion to Jesus' parables of the Kingdom of God being compared to a banquet, perhaps).

After, we get the story of the crowd, 4000 people strong. His disciples ask, "Where could we get enough bread in this remote place to feed such a crowd?" (Matthew 15:33) Again, everyone is fed, and this time there are seven basketfuls of crumbs left (seven is the number of completion, wholeness, the number of all nations).

The number of all nations. So, although this woman was a Canaanite and not a Hebrew, she was a feisty and determined individual whom Jesus actually rejoiced over. Jesus didn't just speak parables, He lived them, and this woman was the first example of a gentile being shown as worthy of salvation. Jesus was telling a parable of how the many nations, not just the Hebrews, would be saved, and He did it while being a bit mean.

“The Passover of the Jews was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. In the temple he found those who were selling oxen and sheep and pigeons, and the money-changers at their business. And making a whip of cords, he drove them all, with the sheep and oxen, out of the temple; and he poured out the coins of the money-changers and overturned their tables. And he told those who sold the pigeons, ‘Take these things away; you shall not make my Father’s house a house of trade.’” John 2:13-16

We can't forget Jesus' tirade at the temple. He was angry that they turned this sacred place, meant to be all about the relationship between God and humankind, and turned it into commercialism and greed.

This might give you a good idea of how He'd react to many modern-day "religious" swindlers.

He wasn't being nice when He yelled at merchants and "macgyvered" a whip to beat and chase people out of the area. However, He had a kind purpose and that was to preserve the sanctity of the temple. He acted out of love for the Father represented there and the true children of God who were there to worship.

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to. Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are...You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel...Thus you witness against yourselves, that you are sons of those who murdered the prophets. Fill up, then, the measure of your fathers. You serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?" Matthew 23:1-39

This is only part of the conversation between Jesus and the Pharisees, those revered at the time for their "holiness." They spent most of their energy trying to undermine and sabotage Jesus in anything He did. And I mean anything: eating corn with His disciples caused them to rain anger on His head.

Jesus has many names He calls the Pharisees, including hypocrites, children of hell, greedy, self-indulgent, whitewashed tombs, and many more. He sure wasn't being nice or polite.

He was warning them and others of the dangers of talking the talk but not walking the walk. They spoke many things of holiness while they ignored the poor, the sick, and "shut the door of the kingdoms of heaven in people's faces." (Matthew 23:13)

To be nice is to be pleasant or satisfactory to another person. To be kind is to be generous, sympathetic, or considerate. I believe being kind is innate while niceness is a social construct.

As Christians, we are called to be like Jesus. The world may desire nice, polite, well-mannered, and tolerant of evil. God does not. It's nice to be nice, but sometimes, we have to forgo our manners in order to be kind. It's good to be respectful, but it's more important to walk the walk of righteousness, standing up for what's right. If you must forgo respect to accomplish that, so be it.


Jesus wasn't always nice, and I guess that's called tough love.



Sources other than the Bible:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-kay-lundblad/on-scripture-matthew-15-teaching-jesus_b_921497.html

Sitting at the Feet of God

Have you ever been hanging out with a loved one or visiting a friend, and suddenly, they're on their phones engrossed in whatever is on the screen? If it happened only occasionally, it might not be a big deal, but it probably gets aggravating if it happens often, almost as if they'd rather be somewhere else or with someone else. There's a disconnect despite the fact you're sitting in the same room.

Okay, here's another scenario. You show up with chicken fried rice for dinner, and your spouse gets upset because they'd rather have Lo Mein tonight. You'll probably end up saying that they could've told you earlier, right? You can't exactly read minds.

However, it brings up an important point about relationships: Communication is super important, and since we're made in God's image, you should know it's important to Him too. Although God can totally read your mind, He wants you to reach out to Him, to ask Him if you want or need something. It's not a guarantee you'll get it (God actually does know better than you about what you need), but it IS a guarantee you'll get closer to Him.

Everyone knows about prayer, but what is prayer exactly? Also, is whispering words to the heavens the only form of communication with God?

The best way to answer "God questions" is to look to the Bible; it is one of God's many ways of communicating with us. I've found many holy people in that book who've prayed; in fact, it seems to be the most favored way of speaking with God. They've joyfully shouted, sobbed, wailed, ranted in anger, whispered in fear, and questioned God's motives with great trepidation. One thing I've noticed is that they poured their hearts out to God, even if what was on their hearts was morally unstable. They communicated to God, and you know what? Without fail, God communicated right back: not necessarily right away.

What do you do if you have a problem in any relationship? You should be bringing it up with the other party, right? Same deal with God. Look no further than the book of Job or several instances when Moses spoke with God in the desert.

There are times when we don't know what to pray, but we still long to connect to God.

"In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know how we ought to pray, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans too deep for words." Romans 8:26

Yes, prayer with words isn't the only way to speak with God.

"And David was dancing before the LORD with all his might, and David was wearing a linen ephod. So David and all the house of Israel were bringing up the ark of the LORD with shouting and the sound of the trumpet." 2 Samuel 6:14-15

"Miriam the prophetess, Aaron's sister, took the timbrel in her hand, and all the women went out after her with timbrels and with dancing. Miriam answered them, "Sing to the LORD, for He is highly exalted; The horse and his rider He has hurled into the sea." Exodus 15:20-21

"And all the skillful men who were performing all the work of the sanctuary came, each from the work which he was performing, and said to Moses, 'The people are bringing more than enough for doing the work the LORD commanded to be done.'" Exodus 36:4-5

These are a few of the many examples of how people "spoke" with God. Dance, song (which oftentimes served as storytelling as well), using our skills to serve, or giving as much of ourselves and our resources as we can in order to praise our Creator. See, God doesn't always speak with us in words. He isn't limited in this way, and we must keep not only our ears but our eyes, minds, and hands open to "hear" Him because He is a multi-sensory experience. So are we.

Every time you meditate on His word, you are communicating with God. Every time you create something in order to praise Him, serve Him, or help others with your work, you are communicating with God. Every time you meet with His other followers to worship Him and help each other walk His path, you are communicating with God. Those moments when you're in the car singing a praise song, you are communicating with God. Even thoughtfully cleaning your house and cooking meals to serve your family, taking care of your children, and raising them in His ways are many other ways to "speak" with God.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20

"Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

When you mindfully do things which you know will please God, you are praying without words.

"And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words." Matthew 6:7

You don't have to know all the right things to say. In fact, you don't have to "say" anything at all. Make sure you take the time to be truly alone with Him when you can.

"But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:6

The times when God have spoken with me are innumerable. He comes to me mostly in my quiet moments, not because He can't communicate in a crowd, but rather because I'm less likely pay attention when He does. His words may come in the form of music, a gentle breeze, a bird landing nearby, a commercial, a photo, a simple word whispered in my mind, etc.. He knows the right way to communicate with me so I will understand.

"‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’" Jeremiah 33:3

One of my favorite ways to pray is to just sit in silence and pay attention to the here and now. Sometimes, my mind feels like it's running constantly with too many thoughts scrambling around. I like to think I'm just hanging out with God in comfortable silence. Sometimes, I think of something to say to Him during our moment; sometimes, He speaks to me. Most of the time, it's just peaceful quality time with someone I love.

Bottom line is there's no excuse to not communicate and spend time with God. There's no wrong or right way to do it. He longs to hear from you even if it's just a reiteration of your day. Worship and prayer go hand-in-hand, and if you do everything with Him in mind, you are spending time with one another and communicating your love for Him. Believe me, if you pay attention, you'll see He's always communicating His love to you.

Anxiety & Depression: It's Ok to NOT Be Ok

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:25-34

In the ebb and flow of life, there are times and situations where we all fall into despair or pull our hair in anxiety. It's a normal reaction to the darkness of the world. This is not our final destination, this is not our true home, and we are surviving in the acidic environment of humanity's many downfalls. The above verse helped me through many times and continues to do so, which is why I posted it in its entirety.

There are also those of us who have "imbalances" in our body chemistry that causes higher levels of worry, fear, and depression even during times of relative calm. I firmly believe that these are the attributes of those people with higher levels of empathy and soulful connection to others in ways we don't yet understand.

Either because of circumstances or the make of their bodies, there have been innumerable Biblical characters who've shared in their fair share of the darkest valleys. Every time, there's been a repeated message from God.

Elijah:

"He came to a broom bush, sat down under it and prayed that he might die. 'I have had enough Lord, he said. Take my life, I am not better than my ancestors.'" 1 Kings 19:4

He ran away from Jezebel and her threats of death, tired and afraid for his life. Though he fled despite God's instructions, God showed up with a gentle heart. He first sent an angel who laid down sustenance for him. This is when God tells him to wait for him on the mountain.

"Then, a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind. After wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper. When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave. Then a voice said to him, 'What are you doing here, Elijah?'" 1Kings 19:11-13

God was in the soft whisper, always by Elijah's side no matter what his state of mind.

Jonah:

"Now O Lord, take away my life, for it is better for me to die than to live...I am angry enough to die." Jonah 4:3-9

Instead of rejoicing at the people's turn around at his prophecy, he despaired that he would no longer be considered a true prophet since his prophecy didn't come true. Despite his obstinate behavior, God showed up with a gentle heart.

"There he made himself a shelter, sat in its shade and waited to see what would happen to the city. Then the Lord God provided a leafy plant and made it grow up over Jonah to give shade for his head to ease his discomfort, and Jonah was very happy about the plant." Jonah 4:5-6

God also used the plant to give Jonah a message on anger, but He'd stayed by Jonah's side through the good and bad times.

Moses:

He killed an Egyptian without due process and fled for his life for forty years. When God showed up in a burning bush, Moses seemed to find himself unworthy based on past failures, and God never stated he was worthy. This is important to remember.

"But suppose they will not believe me or listen to my voice; suppose they say, 'The Lord has not appeared to you.' then Moses said to the Lord, "O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither before nor since You have spoken to Your servant; but I am slow of speech and slow of tongue." Exodus 4:1-14

It was through Moses' weaknesses not his strengths, that God would show His grace and power. Again, after the Israelites were wailing over their hunger, Moses stated:

"I am not able to bear all these people alone. The burden is too heavy for me. If You treat me like this, please kill me here and now if I have found favor in Your sight and do not let me see my wretchedness!" Numbers 11:10-15

These are the words of a man in despair. Yet, God showed up with a gentle heart.

"I will take some of the power of the spirit that is on you and put it on them. They will share the burden of the people with you so that you will not have to carry it alone." Numbers 11:17

Moses is still ranting and ruminating on his problems when God cuts in.

"Is the Lord's arm too short? Now you will see whether or not what I say will come true for you." Numbers 11:23

So, He got a little snarky with Moses (which is hilarious to me), but He was always there for Moses and ready to lift his troubles. All Moses had to do was ask. What's equally memorable about this and the others who yell and rave at God is that He is always listening with patience and never do I find Him getting angry just because they are upset. He understands and wants them to pour their heart out, even if it's anger toward Him.

Job:

Ah, yes, good ol' Job. We can't speak on anxiety and depression without mentioning him.

"Why did I not perish at birth, and die as I came from the womb?" Job 3:11

"I have no peace, no quietness, I have no rest, but only turmoil." Job 3:26

"I loathe my very life, therefore I will give free rein to my complaint and speak out in then bitterness of my soul." Job 10:1

"Terrors overwhelm me... my life ebbs away, days of suffering grip me. Night pierces my bones, my gnawing pains never rest." Job 30:15-17

His book is a plethora of depression and anxiety and no wonder as everything and everyone had been taken from him, except his wife. Yet, he blames God for all this. God shows up in full effect, and honestly, you need to read the full reply to understand how awesome it really is.

" Then the Lord spoke to Job out of the storm. He said:
'Who is this that obscures my plans
with words without knowledge?
Brace yourself like a man;
I will question you,
and you shall answer me.

Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation?
Tell me, if you understand.
Who marked off its dimensions? Surely you know!
Who stretched a measuring line across it?
On what were its footings set,
or who laid its cornerstone—
while the morning stars sang together
and all the angels shouted for joy?

...Surely you know, for you were already born!
You have lived so many years!

...Who has a claim against me that I must pay?
Everything under heaven belongs to me.'" Job 38-44

Yet, He, again, shows up with a gentle yet stern heart. He sets the record straight and good thing, since He's the only One who can set Job's life right again, which He certainly does.

David:

"Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God." Psalm 42:11

David lost both of his sons, Saul was forever chasing him, and he had guilt of sin that tormented him. He asks a controversial question, "Why have you forgotten (or forsaken) me?" (Psalm 42:9).

Again, God steps in with a gentle heart. The fact is, God considered David a "man after my own heart." Do you really think He forsook him? God says, "My love will never be taken away from him." (2 Samuel 7:15)

God established David as king of Israel and promised him that his kingdom would endure forever. (Some claim Queen Elizabeth and her family are direct descendants of David, but that is a controversial subject.) Point is, God would not only be by David's side forever but also by all of his descendants.

Jesus:

Yep, Jesus.

David's Psalm 42 is nearly identical to Psalm 22 that was spoken by Jesus on the cross.

"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" Psalm 22:1

This is said by Jesus while in agony on the cross; dying for our sins, He stood for all of us sinners feeling lost and abandoned. There is an answer to that question.

"The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." Deuteronomy 31:8

Just because you can't see God in the darkness doesn't mean He isn't there. In fact, Jesus says this:

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." John 16:33

In Isaiah's prophecy of Jesus, he is described as "a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief." Is. 53:3

The night before He was captured, when no one else but Him knew what the next day would entail, Jesus was understandably upset.

"'My soul is deeply grieved to the point of death, remain here and keep watch.' and He went a little beyond them, and fell to the ground and began to pray that if it were possible, the hour might pass Him by. And He was saying 'Abba, Father! All things are possible for You, remove this cup from Me; yet not what I will, but what You will.' then, an angel from heaven appeared to Him and strengthened Him. And in His anguish, He prayed more earnestly, and His sweat became like drops of blood falling to the ground." Luke 22:41-44

What's sad is that although He'd been there for us all through our tribulations again and again, as documented in the Bible, His disciples could not even keep their eyes open to comfort Him in His distress. Yet, He wasn't alone. The Father and the angels He sent were there for Him.

Here are some other times God reminds us that He will always be there, even through our darkest days:

"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:6-7

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God." 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Matthew 5:4

God reminds us that through doing our purpose in life, loving and caring for others, our spirits will lift as well:

“'Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke? Is it not to share your food with the hungry and to provide the poor wanderer with shelter— when you see the naked, to clothe them, and not to turn away from your own flesh and blood? Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear; then your righteousness will go before you, and the glory of the LORD will be your rear guard. Then you will call, and the LORD will answer; you will cry for help, and he will say: Here am I. If you do away with the yoke of oppression, with the pointing finger and malicious talk, and if you spend yourselves in behalf of the hungry and satisfy the needs of the oppressed, then your light will rise in the darkness, and your night will become like the noonday... then you will find your joy in the LORD, and I will cause you to ride in triumph on the heights of the land and to feast on the inheritance of your father Jacob.' The mouth of the LORD has spoken." Isaiah 58:1-14

Please remember, dear soul, whatever you're going through that God is with you even if you can't see Him. Forget that old saying, "God will never give you more than you can handle." It's a lie. God never tests you nor gives you evil, but the dark world will definitely give you more than you can handle alone. That is when you need to lean on the One who can handle anything. Give it to HIM. In the same way God wanted to show His grace and power through Moses' weaknesses, He wants to show the same through yours. Don't hold the world on your shoulders. You weren't made that way. God made the world, however, so He can lift your worries while sustaining you in ways you never knew you needed. Be still and listen to that gentle whisper because there is God, forever by your side.

Marriage Part II: Let's Talk About...

In my first blog about marriage and how it reflects the Trinity, it didn't really capture the multi-layered relationship that exists between couples. Ideally, marriage isn't just a symbol, and it isn't a two-dimensional, stale institution devoid of emotion. If it is for you, your relationship doesn't exactly live up to its potential as created by God. Let's return to the idea that God created an equal companion to man. He'd been busy creating and then declaring his creations good repeatedly until this moment. Suddenly, after creating man he broke this pattern and stated it "wasn't good that man should be alone." It wasn't until He created a female counterpart that He said his creation of humanity was good.

Of course, us women are amazing.

However, it wasn't just because of our general awesomeness that He declared humanity good and complete. It was because, now, man had a friend, a helper, a lover, and a person whose strengths matched his weaknesses. If you focus on the "help-meet" part, you miss the point. Animals can be excellent helpers in many ways for riding long distances, carrying heavy things, and even delivering messages (carrier pigeons are pretty cool). Yet, despite their ability to snuggle, they would never carry the same mental and emotional support another person would. Enter: women. We're all about that mental and emotional support... generally speaking.

Passion: It isn't always sexual. It's part of the drive for connection between a couple. It can come out in many ways through various emotions. Marriage can be like a rollercoaster; love, passion, and trust are what forms the safety bars and belts to keep us inside the ride.

We can't speak on passion without mentioning the Song of Solomon, the book of the Bible most likely to make you blush. We won't go into all the breasts like towers or gazelle necks (I'm sure it sounds more poetic in the original language). Song of Solomon has been interpreted to signify everything from romance to politics to the relationship between God and Israel. If you read it as a layperson, however, you'll agree it seems like a simple love song, meant to be sung as a duet. When you were a teen, did you ever write about a crush in your diary or journal? Bet it sounded like this.

"Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love." Song of Solomon 2:5

Gotta love the spirit of young love in this book, but it illustrates perfectly the passion and joy a married couple is meant to experience.

"Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste." Song of Solomon 2:3

After all, God created both pious love and romance, friendship and lovers. There's nothing scandalous in it.

"Let him kiss me with kisses of his mouth - for your love is more delightful than wine." Song of Solomon 1:2

That's probably because, in my opinion, wine tastes disgusting, but the point is that the two are drunk off their love for each other. The point is: marriage is about all of this. Of course, there's a point in life when we are all just a little older and a little less likely to scamper for each other's embrace.

"Listen! My beloved! Here he comes, leaping across the mountains, bounding over the hills." Song of Solomon 2:8

We shouldn't lose that joy for each other even in mature love. Our marriage may be less showy leaves and overhanging branches and more deep-reaching roots, like two trees that tangle one to the another until they are in essence one.

Yes, romance and lust are holy. I know this concept may push against all things you've been taught, at least by the world. In fact, in the past, religion, especially Christianity, became crossed with worldly confusion to the point passion and sex were considered a taboo topic, even within matrimony. It still is an uncomfortable subject for many. This is why I'm writing this today. They are but a reflection of the passion and joy that lies within the unity of the Trinity.

Here's a good place to discuss actual sexual immorality. I'm not going to describe what that encompasses for the sake of propriety (You can look that up easily in the Bible). However, I will state that immorality and sin are actions that cause harm, even if you can't see it immediately. Sexual immorality is mainly harmful to the soul.

There is confusion concerning a separation between body and soul. That, actually, is a Greek philosophy, not a God idea, despite the fact that some churches have adopted the concept. Either the body was typically seen as the evil that the soul was fighting against or the body's actions was seen as separate and, therefore, not affecting the soul. Both of those ideas are wrong.

As described by the Bible, there exists no duality in our being. We are a being of clay infused with God's breath and spirit. When Jesus was resurrected, they didn't find His body and then come across His soul in the street. His body was gone from the grave. Then, Jesus showed back up WITH His body when the disciples ran into Him later. This makes the idea of coming back to life even wilder. You see what you get, guys.

When you commit sexual immorality, you are committing it with your soul, your entire being. Likewise, when it says to treat your body as a temple for the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19), that's because treating your body well is also treating your soul well. Consider this: If you and your spouse "become one" (Mark 10:8) and you sin, aren't you also sinning against your spouse? Interesting.

Aside from immorality, passion and romance is holy and an act of unity between two souls in love. It is what God intended for us to experience in marriage.

I wrote a poem while back that I'll share with you today because it wraps this subject up well. Whether you take it to mean romantic passion or holy fervor is up to you. (Disclaimer: I write poetry for fun not perfection.)

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I, your flame

I burn
I burn, a kindled fire
Out of control
Flames lick my arms
Travel up my legs
Escape from the top of my head
Like a torch, lighting up the dark night
This dark night
Our grim life
Yet I burn
and You, a wind, fuel my inner flame
You, a hurricane, sweep my inferno into the skies
The stars dim in the passion
I am utterly without shame now
You are my storm
I am your blaze
Caught up in the fury of your joy

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