To Fear or To Love God

"And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." -1 John 4:16-18

Some Christians get the fear of the Lord wrong.

It's obvious that we would fear a being who has our very souls and existence in His hands. He created the spinning worlds beyond our eyesight and realms of physical and spiritual beings with inner lives more complex than we can comprehend. He can calm a storm with a word or create one in the void of space, made of comets and planets tossed one into another during the death of a massive sun.

Fear of God makes sense. We are in in awe of His power, and we fear God in the way that we respect Him and His ways. However, whenever the Bible stated that we were to fear God, it didn't intend a fear that causes separation, one that's caused by anxiety and foreboding. That is a distrust of God.

If you're shaking your head right now because you're thinking to yourself "it's not a distrust of God but a knowledge that I'm not good enough for Him," you might be missing the point. You can never be good enough for Him. Yet, you must trust that His love is so grand, so selfless, so majestic, that you're never beyond His reach. You must have faith that His forgiveness is even more expansive than His universe and deeper than the blackness of space. There's a difference between humility, which is exactly what a reverence for God can create, and hopelessness.

If we know in our hearts that God's love is perfect, we know that, as we continue to move forever toward His presence, He moves forever toward ours. We have no fear of judgement or punishment, not because of our own perfection but because of His. This isn't to say we can give up trying. He always chooses us as His children, always. We must always choose Him as our Father, always. To stop trying and trying is to choose to be one of the world, to disengage from a relationship with Him.

Let's not downplay fearing God. The Bible mentions fear of God hundreds of times in a positive manner:

The midwives, however, feared God and did not do what the king of Egypt had told them to do; they let the boys live. -Exodus 1:17

When the people saw the thunder and lightning and heard the trumpet and saw the mountain in smoke, they trembled with fear. They stayed at a distance and said to Moses, "Speak to us yourself and we will listen. But do not have God speak to us or we will die." Moses said to the people, "Do not be afraid. God has come to test you, so that the fear of God will be with you to keep you from sinning." -Exodus 20:18-20

“‘Do not curse the deaf or put a stumbling block in front of the blind, but fear your God. I am the Lord. -Leviticus 19:14

Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell. -Matthew 10:28

Maybe the key is in Exodus 20. Back up to where Moses tells people to not be afraid of God's displays of power in the desert, but then says that fear of God will keep them on the straight and narrow path. We should be full of reverence and awe, knowing that God is the only being in existence who we should fear. If we fear anyone else, it can sway us to trying to appease them as if they were our masters, but as it is said,

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? -Romans 8:31.

Only God should be your master, and He controls all other powers in the world. Good thing He's on our side! Just remember to remain on His. Just as a child first learns right from wrong by whether his parent rewards or punishes him, we, as Children of God may start on the path of His wisdom by fearing His punishment. Once mature in our faith and relationship with Him, just as a child grows into an adult, we no longer fear in that manner so long as we are pressing onward toward Him. We know He means good for us, and we take the lessons we've learned with us.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. -Proverbs 9:10

God bless!