Our Reward on Earth - Children

There are few purposes in life more important than bringing up children, and that most definitely includes all non-parents who have any association with children. Parents may have the most influence, but everyone has influence on everybody, and that includes the little ones. We are a guiding force to them while they are a reward to us all. How would God raise a child? Better than any of us, so we probably should introduce the two.

But when the chief priests and the teachers of the law saw the wonderful things he did and the children shouting in the temple courts, “Hosanna to the Son of David,” they were indignant. “Do you hear what these children are saying?” they asked him. “Yes,” replied Jesus, “have you never read, “ ‘From the lips of children and infants you, Lord, have called forth your praise’?” - Matthew 21:15-16

This is where "from the mouths of babes" came from. Children are in many ways more observant and wise, and I can tell you from my own experience, I've probably learned more from my own daughter than I've taught her.

People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them. - Mark 10:13-16

He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me. “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. - Matthew 18:2-6

Children are quicker to be meek or humble, occupying a lowly position in society with little to no power. Generally, that's still true today. That's not to say they never argue or disobey, which will be covered later, but they are mostly open-hearted. These are some of the ways a child can teach you, just by being themselves. Jesus becomes a mother bear while talking about these little ones, warning any one who should attempt to take away their innocence and loving hearts.

Speaking of causing children to stumble, we must be careful to guide them through whatever obstacles life may throw their way in their spiritual path. Let them encounter said obstacles, pointing out what lessons they teach while the consequences are small . They will come across those obstacles again, but they may be bigger next time. How to teach them? There are as many parenting styles as there are stars in the sky. Let's just be sure we pay attention to God's advice in this area (since he's the ultimate Father).

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. - Proverbs 22:6

I started with this one cause it's the hardest to understand. Doing everything just right in parenting or raising a child in faith will not ensure they believe or that they'll even be a decent person. God is a perfect Father, and many of His children fell astray. That's the whole reason we need a savior. The fact is, this is a very generalized guideline to the general public. If you train a child up in wisdom and love, they will be much more likely to follow God's ways than if you don't. However, that doesn't mean they're hopeless even then, thank God! The fact is, we all have free will. Do your best.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away. - Proverbs 22:15

Rod of discipline sure sounds like a spanking to me. Actually, it can mean any form of discipline. Some children react horribly to spankings, and some don't react at all. Every child is different, and every parent must follow the way they feel best reaches their child. In the end, however, children at some point always need discipline. Don't withhold that from them because they can't learn without all your tools from your parenting belt, and that's doing them more harm than good. Even God disciplines those He loves (Hebrews 12:6). Are you better than He? Just find the right method for your child.

Impress them on your children. Talk about them (God's commandments) when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. - Deuteronomy 6:7

This should be obvious. Teach them God's basic commands and will.

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. - Ephesians 6:4

Not just for fathers, really. If the shoe fits, put it on. Don't exasperate (provoke is another translation) your children. It probably states fathers because men can (generally) be quicker to express anger. Put away unnecessary yelling, excessive discipline, constantly getting onto the child for small things. This will not help them. It will harm them. If you poke the bear, expect it to lash out.

Lest you forget parenting is a two-way street, here's some advice God has for being a child.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” - Ephesians 6:1-3

“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you. - Exodus 20:12 (This is one of the 10 commandments.)

Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck. - Proverbs 1:8-9

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. - Colossians 3:20

Since there may be people of all types reading this blog and some of you may have had abusive or damaging parents, these are all instructions for typical children of typical parents. God does not want children to obey their parent's commandment to harm themselves or do evil (no authority is higher than God). Understand the context in which these words are written and the spirit behind them.

For everyone else, you might love these words. You need to let your children know of God's words for both parents and children, so they know your expectations for them and for yourselves and your reasoning behind it being God.

Whatever you do, don't forget that all children, no matter how difficult or easy, are gifts from God.

Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children. - Proverbs 17:6

Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him. - Psalm 127:3-5

He lifted his eyes and saw the women and the children, and said, "Who are these with you?" So he said, "The children whom God has graciously given your servant." - Genesis 33:5

None of us are perfect parents or children because none of us are perfect humans. Some days we fail more than we succeed, but it's so very important that God's overarching message comes across no matter what you do: love. Love doesn't mean permissiveness. God is not permissive even though He is Love. We should treat our children as though we are Children of God and so are they.

Do you have any advice on how to raise children that you've received from God's Word?

God bless!

Commandment Series: The Eighth

"You shall not steal." Exodus 20:15

There are many ways to steal. One is obvious, that of actively taking someone else's possessions. Despite the glaring wrongness of this, many people in the world still have problems keeping their hands to their own stuff.

"Theft from retail stores costs the American public 33.21 billion dollars per year." (1)

In 2014, it was estimated by the US Chamber of Commerce that "75% of employees steal from their workplace and do it repeatedly." (2)

"Identity thieves... hit a record 15.4 million Americans" in 2016 (3)

There's a great poem by Ella Wheeler Wilcox called "Two Kinds of People." I'll only post the portion that relates to our subject:

"No! The two kinds of people on earth I mean
Are the people who lift, and the people who lean.

Wherever you go you will find the world's masses
Are ever divided into these two classes.
And, strangely enough, you will find, too, I wean,
There is only one lifter to twenty who lean.

This one question I ask. Are you easing the load
Of overtaxed lifters who toil down the road?
Or are you a leaner who lets others bear
Your portion of worry and labor and care?"

Stealing is a heart problem, as is every sin. Stealing is about not respecting others and their possessions, not giving in love, it's about taking and selfishness, which is against everything God stands for.

There are other ways you might steal. If you write up incorrect information on your taxes (stealing money), take longer on a work break than you're allowed (stealing time and possibly money), sell products with misleading advertisements (stealing money), or taking advantage of the goodness of others out of laziness (time, money, etc). We can add kidnapping to the list. You could probably think of other things that are actually theft. If the spirit of your actions are selfish, you might be stealing.

Hosea 12:6-8 But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice, and wait for your God always. The merchant uses dishonest scales and loves to defraud. Ephraim boasts, “I am very rich; I have become wealthy. With all my wealth they will not find in me any iniquity or sin.”

"Do not defraud or rob your neighbor. Do not hold back the wages of a hired worker overnight." Leviticus 19:13

You could also be stealing from God. He is the Creator and owner of all things big and small, and that includes time, energy, material possessions, living beings, etc. If you have the ability and possessions available to you that, after you and your loved ones' needs are met, could help others, you have the obligation to do so. Nothing is really yours, after all. If you hoard things, you're stealing what is God's, and God wants everyone to be blessed. If you have an excess of anything, He wants you to share in the joy of blessing others.

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21

"If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. "Ephesians 4:28

Another way others have stolen is by being false prophets and teachers. This is also a way of stealing from God. They steal His people and lead them astray.

“This figure of speech Jesus spoke to them, but they did not understand what those things were which He had been saying to them. So Jesus said to them again, Truly, truly, I say to you, I am the door of the sheep. All who came before Me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not hear them.” John 10:6-8

Jesus was clear that stealing is undermining everything it means to be Christian. God wants to give generously out of love, and He wants us to emulate Him in this way.

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly." John 10:10

When we take, whether that's material possessions, people, identities, time, energy, anything, we could have been giving. Use what He has given us to bless the world, and you'll be blessed in return.

“A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. People curse the one who hoards grain, but they pray God’s blessing on the one who is willing to sell. Whoever seeks good finds favor, but evil comes to one who searches for it. Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf. Whoever brings ruin on their family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise. The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and the one who is wise saves lives. If the righteous receive their due on earth, how much more the ungodly and the sinner!” Proverbs 11:25-31

Sources other than the Bible:

1) crimedoctor.com/shoplifting-facts.htm

2) pinkerton.com/blog/who-took-that-preventing-employee-theft-in-retail

3) nbcnews.com

Commandment Series: The Fifth

“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you." Exodus 20:12

There are many reasons for this commandment.

"Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God." Romans 13:1

In an earlier post, we mentioned submission and how submission acknowledges the Trinity and our governance, as followers, by love and humility. In the Trinity, one might equate the Father to the husband, the Son to the wife, and the Holy Spirit to their child. Now, the Holy Spirit is a being in and of Himself, but He defers all attention to the union above Him. In the same way, a child does represents his/her parents and their character and family name. We must teach our children this fact as well as we can by teaching them the commandments.

"You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise." Deuteronomy 6:7

Understandably, not every parent in the world is honorable him/herself, and this law does not necessarily mean to obey evil commands given by corrupt parents. One must always keep in mind the order of authority given to us by God. Parents (or husband after marriage) is an immediate authority; above them is the Holy Spirit, and above the Holy Spirit is Jesus and the Father. If you worked for a company and the owner told you to lock the door by 9pm but the manager told you to keep it open until 10pm, you would defer to the owner's words as she is higher in authority. So, although all authority is in place for a reason, you are not expected to do evil for parents, spouses, bosses, or government officials. If forced, it will be the authority's head on the block, believe me.

So, what does God mean by honoring our parents?

"Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you," 1 Peter 5:5-6

"Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." Colossians 3:20

Children should obey in everything but evil. This must be assumed. Obedience is one way of honoring your parents, as they are in a position of authority in your life. It's difficult to be a parent, especially in this world of corruption that we have to prepare you for and defend you from, and it can be very difficult to be a child, too, navigating in the confusing maze of deciding between good and evil. Make it easier for everyone by doing what your mother and father ask of you. You will be lifted up in time.

"If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness." Proverbs 20:20

Don't wish harm upon your parents, and don't speak badly of them; this is another way of honoring your parents. I hope this is obvious, but sometimes, we become angry and frustrated with everyone in our lives. That includes our parents. You stand for your parents' name, so if you speak evil of them, what does that make you?

"Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old." Proverbs 23:22

From the moment we hit puberty, many of us think we know better than our parents. This is not so, and if you are wise, you'll listen to the words of your elders. You may learn something or not, but you certainly won't if you turn a deaf ear. Just being a good listener is a way of honoring your parents. Also, sometimes, as our parents get older, they become less physically and mentally able. Try not to become resentful of the extra attention, assistance, or patience they may need. For most of us, our parents were there for us when we were incapable of doing anything but crying, and it is little to ask for us to do the same for them. You will be in their position soon enough, too.

"But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8

This also ties in with the prior verse in that your parents may need you to provide for them whether that is because of age, financial disruption, or disease. You honor your parents by caring for their needs. As followers of Christ, we are called to love others and meet needs in the world with that love. If you can't love and care for your own relatives, you certainly can't love and care for strangers. Even unbelievers take care of their loved ones.

“You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the Lord." Leviticus 19:32

If you should be respectful of your elders due to their authority and experience , the same goes doubly for your own parents. Let it be said that not all parents are biological. I feel strongly that if someone raised you, no matter who they are, they are also your parents. The 5th commandment pertains to them. Jesus honored both His earthly and heavenly parents.

"And he went down with them and came to Nazareth and was submissive to them. And his mother treasured up all these things in her heart." Luke 2:51

Not only your parents, but also your children, will treasure all you do for your mother and father in their hearts, whether they always show it or not. Don't expect any more honor from your children than you give your own parents. Most importantly, your Father God will certainly be moved by your actions, and He will exalt you for the love you show them in word and deed.

Marriage Part I: Beyond Mankind

Marriage is a concept as ancient as time itself, but it's been riding a rollercoaster of interpretation throughout humanity's existence. Whether the institution has been used for prosperity, security, business-like partnership, procreation, romantic love, societal expectation, companionship, convenience, status, or alliance, it's only ever meant one thing to God. Do you know what that would be?

If you say love, you aren't wrong, but the kind of love you're imagining may be skewed by worldly influence. You know what? Let's start at the beginning, the very beginning, before mankind.

The Alpha and Omega: Even before the Father spoke to the Son about making people in Their image and the Holy Spirit hovered above a formless Earth, God has existed in three. No doubt, in making us in Their image, They also made us need one another. However, since we're imperfect, we're also great at fighting that fact. We pride ourselves for independence and pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps.

"Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:22-24

One flesh. They aren't even two beings living their lives together because that could be a simple friendship. Marriage is two becoming one. Ideally, they are a unit, moving in tandem toward a single goal. I say ideally because we're still imperfect, and therefore, everything we do is too.

“'Haven’t you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6

Marriage is so unlike humanity, isn't it? Throughout our history, we've been on the move from country to country, changing our society, our customs, our language, our technology, and our very principles. We're never satisfied for long, and if left to our own devices, we go in circles from generation to generation, forever changing, sometimes for good and sometimes for bad. That "let no one separate" imparts a sense of permanency very rare in the world.

"For I am the Lord, I change not..." Malachi 3:6

"Unlike them, He never changes or casts shifting shadows." James 1:17

That is why He's our rock. We desperately need a solid place to hold onto in the moving sands of humanity. This sense of unity, unchanging loyalty, and inseparable love is what the Trinity wants His children to joyfully experience. Marriage is a symbol of the Trinity, born from His own state of existence.

This is a great place to mention divorce. Divorce is technically never good. The separation of any part of the Trinity is impossible, so any parting from that permanence and unity of that Godly love is not good. It'd be great if we could just never be harmful or abusive to one another and if loyalty and trust were forever for all marriages. This isn't so. God would never want you to stay in a harmful environment. If you or your children are being abused in any way, separate yourselves from that evil. God is love, and He loves you. Besides separating from an abusive situation, the hard truth is that God only permits actual divorce in one situation:

"Jesus answered, “It was because of your hardness of heart that Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but it was not this way from the beginning. Now I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.”His disciples said to Him, “If this is the case between a man and his wife, it is better not to marry.”“Not everyone can accept this word,” Jesus answered, “but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way; others were made that way by men; and still others live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.'" Matthew 19:8-12

To me, He is essentially stating that, unless your spouse cheats, your "divorce" will potentially drive them to another partner (as we are all driven to companionship). Since God isn't recognizing it as a true divorce, you potentially caused them to cheat on you. Also, you're cheating on them if you move on. This is not to say you're sinning forever. Once you're married again, if you follow God's ways on marriage with the new relationship, you are forgiven (as you always can be). Even Jesus' disciples were shocked by this declaration, and Jesus basically told them if they didn't like it, then they didn't have to get married.

Marriage is not for everyone. Paul attested to the beauty of being a single follower of Christ in 1 Corinthians 7:7. Jesus said being unmarried in a good thing for some in Matthew 19:11. You can still get a sense of a Godly, solid partnership if use the same concept of the Trinity in other close relationships, particularly with believers.

As mentioned in the last post, submission also holds a large part in the structure of marriage, as it does in the Trinity. Marriage reflects, like a mirror, the Father (husband), the Son (wife), and the Holy Spirit (children). Submission is simply an act of servitude to others that all should follow, whether in authority or not. It's an act of love and respect. Jesus is in submission to the Father, and the Holy Spirit is in submission to both. The Father, in turn, serves the other two in equal respect.

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:22-33

If you confused or angered by the idea of submission, please read my last post on submission, just for clarification on the subject. Even better, read the Bible, and study the relationship of the Trinity. It's all good, and so submission and marriage is intended to be. In the above verse, the husband is to be held to the highest standard as he reflects the nature of the Father in the relationship, and as the Father utterly loves Jesus, so too should a husband act out of complete love for his wife.

Notice that Paul mentioned that marriage also reflects the hierarchy of love, submission, respect, and partnership of God and His people. A husband (whether or not the wife successfully serves him) is to nourish and sustain his wife in such a way that she thrives. A powerful woman is an asset and testament to a powerful man. In return (whether or not the husband successfully serves her), a wife is to be respectful to her husband, supporting him emotionally and spiritually. They are one, and if one falls, so too does the other.

If the partners and the good Lord decide that children are in their marriage plans, those children are Biblically called to be submissive to their parents (as is the Holy Spirit), serving in love and respect. In return, the parents need to act in love and respect as their authority figures while guiding their children's actions.

This all may seem obvious and maybe a bit repetitive. I'm only mentioning these things because we're all confused at times by life (I know I am), and we can get tangled in the mass of worldly marriage-how-to books and growing-children manuals. If you're ever in a situation where you don't know how to act with your partner or your child, remember the Trinity. You may be surprised how helpful that imagery is. God created it that way, after all.

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Okay, so there's more I want to say on marriage because there's so much more to it within the Bible. I'm not sure if it'll be my next post or not. Thank you for reading my blog! I have more in store for you next Saturday.

The Christian Dirty Word - Submission

Even among many Christians, this Biblical word is cringe-worthy, anxiety-inducing, and angering: submission. In the good US of A, where we pride ourselves on independence and rebellion, the word conjures an idea of cowering in the face of authority and accepting our fate. For women and feminists everywhere, the word brings to mind The Stepford Wives and living solely for our men's comfort and praise, pretending to be lesser beings.

Yet, invariably, although we may try to avoid it, someone will bring up this verse, usually twisting it for whatever purpose or point they're trying to make:

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:22-33

We're lucky if they even mention that the verse afterwards is all about husbands loving their wives. Most of us hang, as if to a life raft, struggling to explain it's not what they think, trying to keep our heads above the water before we drown in their disgust at our beliefs.

How about this verse?

"Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God." Romans 13:1

How can you be a feminist if you believe in the same Bible that tells us women to subjugate ourselves to even abusive men? How do you reconcile being a patriotic American and also a doormat to corrupt leaders?

You can't, and you don't. Submission doesn't mean those things. Let's see what it means to God and His followers who wrote those words.

If anyone could be called a rebel against corrupt leaders, it would be God. If anyone could be called a feminist, it would be God. How do I know?

In the book of Exodus, God poured down wrath on a pharaoh who enslaved His people. In the book of Daniel, King Nebuchadnezzar and King Darius of Mede did many evil things to his subjects, but Daniel and his friends refused to compromise to their demands on matters of faith, refusing their food and refusing to bow down and worship a human. Jesus stormed into the temple courtyard, yelling, overturning tables, and driving people out with a whip because of greedy and hypocritical leaders. He stood up in innumerable public places and risked his life to teach radical ideas that ran counter to what religious and political leaders were teaching. He rebuked and challenged those leaders to their faces.

As concerns both the power of a female and facing a corrupt authority figure, consider the story of Esther. She became the wife of King Ahasuerus and queen of Persia. Secretly, she was a Jew, and she found out the king was to kill her people. There was a law that anyone who came before the king unbidden would be instantly killed. She wasn't bidden, but she came into his presence anyway to petition him for her people, thus becoming their hero at risk of her life.

Jesus had twelve main disciples, but many, many more followed his footsteps, including women. In His time, men were the only accepted students of Rabbis. However, Jesus taught women and accepted them in His travelling group of discipleship.

The stories of standing against corruption in leadership and illuminating the power of God's female followers are many if you take the time to find them.

Then, what on Earth does God mean when He says we must submit? I'll tell you that it doesn't mean what the world means by submit. The world is overrun by corruption, power-hungry authorities, and people of all kinds who will run you over if you display any weakness.

God is certainly not a doormat, so if He wants you to be just like Him, do you think He's asking you to be one?

So, what is submission to God? When in doubt, check out Jesus' actions:

"But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:44-45

A servant puts others before him/herself and respects those around them. Jesus displayed this when He washed His disciples' feet, an action only done by inferiors, not figures of authority.

"When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. 'Do you understand what I have done for you?' he asked them. 'You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.'" John 13:12-17

Do you understand? He expressed, with his actions, how to be submissive. It's interesting to note that submission shouldn't only come from inferiors but from leaders as well. Here's another verse:

"So the last will be first, and the first will be last." Matthew 20:16

As followers or "inferiors" must submit to authority, authority figures must serve those below them. When you refuse to submit, to serve each other, as if you were above it all, you make yourself more inferior than anyone actually considered below you. This is not the worldly view nor is it the view the world wishes you to see God.

Okay, so what about women submitting to their husbands? I believe it is the same in many ways. Both spouses should submit to one another in the sense that they serve one another. Otherwise, as the authority figure in the household (Yes, the husband is indeed considered the authority in the hierarchy of a marriage. Hang with me for a moment.), the husband is not a good leader if he doesn't know how to submit (see Jesus' quote above about first being last). As concerns a man's authority in a marriage, the institution of marriage is a God-created relationship. As humans, we are transient, easily straying, very distractible creatures. Marriage and family is a symbol of the trinity, the unity of the Father (husband), the Son (wife), and the Holy Spirit (children). As such, there is a component of hierarchy, but it means to portray the unity and inseparableness of the relationship of God, born in love and respect.

Let me add this as I feel compelled: The Father would never abuse Jesus nor the Holy Spirit. He is Love. A husband is supposed to be walking in the footsteps of Jesus in this respect. If a husband is abusive, the entire unit breaks down. Jesus died so we could live and lived so we could thrive in joy and freedom. I am under the strong belief that God would not want anyone to stay within a harmful environment. You can be respectful but strong, loving but leaving, forgiving but not forgetting. God loves you.

To submit to authority of any kind, you must understand that the ultimate authority is God. If any authority figure of any kind wishes for you to compromise your relationship with God, you are not only encouraged, you are under obligation to not obey or comply. As shown in the examples above and throughout the Bible, you are a servant to the King of Kings before all else. All of God's children in the Bible and history in general refused to compromise their submission to Him.

So, to wrap up, submission is all about love, honor, respect, and living as Jesus would. God was never a doormat nor was he a woman-hater. Jesus is a rebel against all corruption even if it came from authority figures, protesting in love while remaining loud and strong. He is a true feminist. Although God has had to spread His message in many clearly anti-feminist environments (in the past and present), His message has always been empowering to women. Women was, is, and has always been considered equal to men in value. Don't mix up the world's message with God's.


I initially planned to write a post about feminism and another separate one about marriage. However, I had to first write this one as confusion reigns when it comes to the concept of submission, and that concept is tied to both of those subjects. Stay tuned!